There’s nothing quite like hearing the words, “You’re pregnant.” It’s a mix of joy, fear, excitement, and a whole new world of expectations—some you put on yourself, and some the world hands you without asking.

Whether it’s your first baby or your third, the journey of pregnancy comes with a lot of unknowns, and if we’re being honest—it’s rarely just like the books or the perfectly polished Instagram posts. So we wanted to write this post for the expecting mom (and dad!) who just needs someone to say: Hey, it’s okay if your experience doesn’t look like anyone else’s.

Here are some things to keep in mind when you’re expecting—real talk, from one growing family to another.

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Your body will change, but so will your mindset.

You’ll notice the physical changes first—hello cravings, bloating, and a belly that seems to pop overnight. But what surprised us more were the mental shifts. You start thinking about safety differently. Your priorities start rearranging themselves. You might feel more vulnerable, more protective, or even more emotional—and that’s okay.

You’re not just growing a baby. You’re growing into a new version of yourself.

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Every pregnancy is different (yes, really).

You might hear things like, “By 12 weeks you should feel better,” or “You’ll get that glow!” But what if you don’t? What if nausea stays longer than expected, or energy never really returns until the third trimester?

That’s okay too. There’s no gold medal for the “perfect pregnancy.” Grace is more valuable than expectations.

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People will give a lot of advice. Filter with love.

Family, friends, strangers at the grocery store—everyone has an opinion about what you should or shouldn’t do during pregnancy. Listen with love, but remember: you’re the one carrying the baby. What works for one mom might not work for another, and you have every right to trust your gut (and your doctor).

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Your relationship will shift—and that’s normal.

If you’re parenting with a partner, expect things to shift. Sometimes you’ll feel super connected. Other times, your emotions might feel like they’re on a whole different planet. That’s okay.

What matters most is communicating through those changes and making space for each other. Teamwork doesn’t mean perfect—it means committed.

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You don’t have to “enjoy every moment.”

Can we be honest? Some parts of pregnancy are just hard. It’s okay if you don’t love every second of it. There’s beauty in the journey, yes—but there’s also swollen ankles, hormonal tears, and anxiety about the future.

You’re still a good mom (or dad) even if it’s not all smiles and butterflies.

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Faith can carry you through the fog.

There will be days when you feel overwhelmed. Scared. Uncertain. In those moments, cling to truth—not fear. Scripture reminds us in Isaiah 41:10, “Do not fear, for I am with you; do not be dismayed, for I am your God.”

God doesn’t expect perfection from you—He just asks you to trust Him. That’s been our anchor time and time again.

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Prepare—but don’t pressure yourself to be fully “ready.”

The nursery doesn’t have to be Pinterest-perfect. The hospital bag doesn’t have to be packed at 20 weeks. You’re allowed to take your time, adjust your pace, and ask for help.

Babies don’t come into perfect homes—they come into real ones. Full of love, imperfection, and intention.

Final Thoughts

Pregnancy can feel like a lot—and it is. You’re not just preparing for a baby. You’re growing into a new season of life, and that deserves celebration, grace, and rest.

So if you’re expecting right now, we’re cheering for you. You’re already doing an incredible job—even on the days when you don’t feel like it. Keep praying, keep resting, and keep reminding yourself: You’re becoming more than you were, and that’s a beautiful thing.

With love,

Sheri & Bates